Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Great piece on male entitlement and male feminists - go read it now!

Some days I read something online and think "YES! THIS IS SO SPOT ON!!" I read a piece a few years ago about a woman who goes in for a check-up during her pregnancy and finds herself thinking through all of the unwanted contact she's experienced over the years as she checks the boxes on her medical form. It was one of those powerful stories that really hit home for me.  I came upon another great piece on a related topic, which inspired me to write this brief blog post. I'm not comfortable sharing my own experiences at the moment, but head on over and read the piece (TW for discussion of sexual assault). I was surprised how much I related to the experiences that the author and others shared, but then we've been bombarded with news stories of women experiencing similar things for the past few weeks. Our culture perpetuates some terrible ideas about men, women, sex, and consent, which leave a lot of people confused, hurt, and angry. Changing culture is hard, but it starts with us having these important conversations.

Onward and upward,


Friday, June 20, 2014

Never Read the Comments [Trigger Warning]

The folks over at Feministing have a really interesting (and pretty dang accurate) piece about the comments section of articles on campus sexual assault. A fun thought experiment: think about how you would respond to these statements/questions, and feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.

Saturday, February 15, 2014

The 1950's called. They want their sexist, outdated views back.

It's been a while, fair blog readers. I've been busy with life and neglecting my blogging. Thankfully, someone wrote something silly and sexist, which has provided inspiration for a blog post.

Sunday, November 24, 2013

Women, Babies, and Breadwinners, Oh My!

Because I miss blogging and haven't written anything in a while, I thought I'd write a bit on a wonderful Fox News piece I just read, called "Why women still need husbands" (The answer being BABIES, of course). I've selected a few choice statements from the article to discuss.

Statement #1: "Financial independence is a great thing, but you can’t take your paycheck to bed with you."

Hahaha. This is just a ridiculous thing to write.

Statement #2 : "They [women] want balance. And there’s only one way to get it: rely on a man’s more linear career goals."

Actually, there are a few other things that we can do to help improve work/life balance that - SURPRISE! - have nothing to do with relying on someone else's "career goals." Provide, via policy at various levels, PAID family leave (we're one of only a handful of countries that doesn't do this), flexible work schedules, and more affordable childcare.Or women could simply choose not to have kids, which - gasp! - does actually happen sometimes.

Statement #3 : "There’s no way to be a wife, a mother and a full-time employee and still create balance."

See answer to #2. Also, depend less on stereotypical gender roles (and date/marry people who do the same) to dictate what men and women are supposed to do, so men feel more comfortable with things like parenting and housework and women feel more comfortable (and less guilty) working outside the home.

Statement #4 : "I know what you're going to say. Where are these husbands on whom women can depend? And you're right: there are fewer men these days who seem eager to be primary breadwinners. But ask yourself whey and I bet you know the answer."


The end.

Saturday, September 7, 2013

A Lot Can Happen in Five Years...

About five years ago, something happened in my life, that helped mold me into the person that I am today. Though it seemed pretty terrible at the time, it's something that I'm celebrating today.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

National NOW Conference Highlights

This year's National NOW conference was held in Chicago, Illinois, July 5th through 7th. I left for Chicago the evening of the 4th, watching fireworks light up the sky as we traveled through Minnesota and Wisconsin. After stops in Eau Claire, Tomah, and Milwaukee, I arrived in Chicago around 6 am on Friday, July 6th, ready to spend the day listening to and learning from some fabulous feminists. I've provided some highlights from my experience at the conference below.

Thursday, June 27, 2013

The Importance of Celebrating Our Victories and Our Heroes

This week had been a mixed bag in our seemingly unending fight for social justice and equality. Some very important decisions were issued by the Supreme Court this week, and an extreme anti-abortion bill failed to pass in Texas (though it will likely pass in a second special session next week). I've linked to the opinions and short explanations of the SCOTUS decisions below.

 Employment Law: Vance v. Ball State University; explanation of decision  
University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center v. Nassar; explanation of decision

Affirmative action: Fisher v. University of Texas; explanation of decision

Indian Child Welfare Act: Adoptive Couple v. Baby Girl; explanation of decision

Voting Rights Act: Shelby County v. Holder; explanation of decision

Proposition 8 (CA): Hollingsworth v. Perry; explanation of decision

Defense of Marriage Act: United States v. Windsor; explanation of decision

There's a lot more great info and coverage of the decisions at

(Sigh. Just reading through and linking those decisions and explanations was exhausting, so I'm not going to spend time elaborating on them here.)

We've had wins and losses this week, and while it's necessary to acknowledge the losses and what they mean, I think we should celebrate our victories and heroes as well. DOMA was ruled unconstitutional, meaning that  "same-sex couples who are legally married must now be treated the same under federal law as married opposite-sex couples."  And Texas State Senator Wendy Davis filibustered long enough to kill an abortion bill that would ban abortions after 20 weeks, force clinics to upgrade or close and require doctors to have admitting privileges at a hospital within 30 miles.

The reality is that we NEED to celebrate the victories and people who helped us gain them or we won't have the energy and enthusiasm to continue to fight. Fighting for equality is hard and it's exhausting. I know that if I never took the time to laugh, cry, and be joyful about the good things that we've achieved, I would have burned out a long time ago (and I'm not that old, so that's sayin' something!).

I'm doing what one writer at Jezebel suggested:
For the next day or so, against all of my anxious instincts, I'm choosing to dwell on the good things that just happened, so I have the energy to deal with the bad stuff coming down the pipeline. There's more than enough of it to keep my anxiety reserves full.

Onward and upward,